Recently I wrote about the only 100% way to go to the Czech Republic. The first step I described as some "moral preparation", and I'd like to think about this once more.
As far as I know, the topic of moving from Russia has been popular approximately since the baptism of Rus'. Russians are one of those peoples who can't sit still at home. Cooler than us - only Poles. About 38 million live in Poland, and about 20 outside Poland, i.e. more than half the country. That's a record.
As far as I remember, there were always people around wanting to leave. I wasn't against it either, but recently I decided to think about why I succeeded and someone didn't.
So I decided to think about what exactly made me stop reasoning and start acting. And I came to several conclusions. I'll tell my story, maybe it'll help someone.
Usually people start thinking about emigration in two cases. First - when everything's bad, no money, etc. - it seems that if you move, everything will be fine. The second case - when someone left and starts broadcasting from abroad about how good everything is. The son of mom's friend effect kicks in - Svetka's Vasya already left long ago, got married and got rich, and you're still slacking off.
Actually it seems to me that both these motivations are doomed to failure. I'll tell you why.
When everything's bad and you want to leave, subconsciously you understand that you're poor and weak not because you're an asshole, but because Putin is to blame. Well, or whoever's there now. In short, you unconsciously shift responsibility for your life onto the tsar, idiot neighbors and bribe-taking teachers. Maybe this is true, but by this alone you'll never motivate yourself to get your ass up.
The second motivation - when someone left and starts praising themselves. First, you'll find a million reasons why the person who left doesn't deserve to leave. His dad steals, and his mom is a PhD, so he's genetically smart, but you weren't given that. He studied English at school, and you're of engineering mindset, and abroad you can't manage without English. In general, again - it's easier for you to make yourself think that Vasya is a fool and not a patriot.
Another big problem, purely Russian by the way, is being uninformed. It seems that around are only NATO enemies, that they take children away there, that Jews conspired. Without jokes, for some reason the more a person doesn't leave home, the more stereotypes in their head.
So what to do? :)
I'll tell about what made me leave personally. I'll say right away, until 22 I'd only been in two cities in the world - Kaluga and Moscow, so the case is probably even more advanced than yours.
When I was in 9th grade, I got internet. Well, and thoughts crept in to go to the Czech Republic. Then, naturally, it seemed unrealistic. I found some site where they supposedly help those who want. Some woman called me on Skype, at a time convenient for her. Told me I need to enroll in school, transfer. Then enroll in university in English, because I won't know Czech. Naturally, university is definitely paid. In short, total shit. This demotivated me from even thinking about moving, because on the internet you believe everything written and said. They'll say - well it's impossible to get in anywhere, and you believe.
In short, first point - being informed. Look for sources you can trust and that don't reek of business from a kilometer away. Read my blog, watch videos on YouTube. You'll find a million people who talk about their life abroad and are ready to help you. Learn to ask questions correctly - don't think anyone's interested in you moving. Example of a bad question: "Is it true that education in the Czech Republic is free?". Example of a good question: "I love computer science, which university do locals choose when they want to study in that direction?".
Without adequate perception of information you won't go anywhere. And without digging through a pile of shit on the internet, spending quite a lot of time at that, either. Yes, you need to look for information in bits and pieces and check it yourself. Yes, you need to learn to understand who wants to make money off you, and who doesn't care if you come or not, so they answer honestly.
Second point - independence. Every blogger who left encounters one big joke. 101% of us got a message like this: "Hi, I'm Vanya's mom, he wants to become an astronaut. I heard from a friend's friend that their son studies astronautics in Russian in Zadrotsk-nad-Vltavou. Is it true you can transfer from a Czech university to study in Germany and get a scholarship there, working 20 hours a week? I really want him to leave, it's so great there!".
You'll laugh, but this is directly my case. In 9th grade I absolutely didn't give a shit where to study, work, etc. I lived on my parents' money and didn't worry. What will be tomorrow - doesn't matter. And I just got lucky that somehow a clear desire to leave was born in me. I was lucky to understand that personally at home nothing works out for me, though I try. But for a very long time my mom tried for me. It only worked out when I understood everything myself.
Conclusion - until a person wants it themselves, don't do anything for them. If you're someone's mom, and your child hasn't taken a single step toward moving - it's not them who needs to move, it's you. And if you start clucking about how it's too late for you, you have work, family, but they have everything ahead - better both sit at home. You need to take responsibility for your life into your own hands, don't make someone fulfill your dreams.
The last point of my motivation - realization that you really need this. Two people live in each of us - one lives in the comfort zone and talks out of everything new, the second wants changes. It's important to understand that exactly until the day you enter a new country, you'll have to shut up that first one. Without this there's no way. Through internal dialogue you need to make yourself understand why you even need this. Find motivation that will work personally on you. The fact that somewhere the grass is greener isn't motivation. The fact that the Czech Republic has developed industry, and you're drawn to a factory, want to work in this sphere, but at home there are only 3 cafes and a hospital - that's quite an argument.
Make it so you get used to the thought that home is no longer comfortable and understand what exactly causes this discomfort.
Once more:
- collect reliable information
- make the decision independently, not for someone
- realize the reasons for leaving
I hope this helps at least someone. I understand that if you haven't decided yet but are in the thinking stage, this article will only cause irritation. Nobody wants to realize that someone is motivated and you can't manage. Don't worry, in any case every important decision is made when at one fine second something clicks in your brain.
So don't hesitate to write about your thoughts and share the article with friends. Who knows, maybe they're missing exactly such a trifle as this spiteful text. And don't forget the mantra about how to 100% go study in the Czech Republic.